Tech Lead Handbook
  • 👋Introduction
  • People
    • Space for Growth
    • One on Ones
    • Manage Conflicts
    • Deal with Passive Aggressive
    • Give Feedback
    • Performance Management
    • Manage Up
    • Talent Matrix
  • Engineering
    • Pair Programming
    • DCI Framework
    • Code Ownership
    • ADR
  • Leadership
    • Leadership Competencies
    • The Communication Pyramid
    • Anti Patterns
  • Prioritisation
    • Types of Decisions
    • Pros and Cons
    • Decision Matrix
  • Hiring
    • Hiring Process
    • Prepare a Hiring
    • Position Description
    • Shortlisting
    • Case Study
  • Product
    • Working with Product Managers
    • Assumptions Mapping
    • Decision Making
    • Practice vs Process
    • Nemawashi
    • OKRs
    • Consensus vs Consent
  • Project
    • The Triple Constraint
  • Strategy
    • Tech Strategy
  • Communication
    • Use Positive Language
  • Shortlist
  • ...
Powered by GitBook
On this page
  • The What
  • The How
  • Tips
  • Pitfalls
  1. People

Deal with Passive Aggressive

PreviousManage ConflictsNextGive Feedback

Last updated 1 year ago

The What

What is passive-aggressive behaviour? What are some of the signs?

Passive-aggressive behaviour is a pattern of indirectly expressing negative feelings instead of openly addressing them.

More info in Mayo Clinic website

Typical passive-aggressive coworker behaviors include things like:

Snarky comments

Bitter, critical, or demeaning humor

Withholding information

Backhanded compliments

Sabotaging your success by failing to meet a commitment

The How

Some good articles about how to deal with people with passive-aggressive behaviours

Tips

  • Stay calm

  • Focus on the work

  • Use language carefully

Pitfalls

🕳️
📜
https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/adult-health/expert-answers/passive-aggressive-behavior/faq-20057901
https://letsgrowleaders.com/2023/06/19/talk-with-a-passive-aggressive-coworker/
https://www.mindtools.com/a7eslxm/how-to-manage-passive-aggressive-people