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# Deal with Passive Aggressive

## The What

What is passive-aggressive behaviour? What are some of the signs? 

> Passive-aggressive behaviour is a pattern of indirectly expressing negative feelings instead of openly addressing them. 

More info in Mayo Clinic website  <https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/adult-health/expert-answers/passive-aggressive-behavior/faq-20057901>

Typical passive-aggressive coworker behaviors include things like:

> <mark style="background-color:orange;">Snarky comments</mark>
>
> <mark style="background-color:orange;">Bitter, critical, or demeaning humor</mark>
>
> Withholding information
>
> Backhanded compliments
>
> Sabotaging your success by failing to meet a commitment

## The How

Some good articles about how to deal with people with passive-aggressive behaviours

* <https://letsgrowleaders.com/2023/06/19/talk-with-a-passive-aggressive-coworker/>
* <https://www.mindtools.com/a7eslxm/how-to-manage-passive-aggressive-people>

## :scroll: Tips

* Stay calm
* Focus on the work
* Use language carefully

## :hole: Pitfalls